The Move So Far…

I’m sitting in an iHop, waiting for my breakfast. It’s 9:32 am on July 4th. I think it’s about time to update my status of my move to South Carolina.

Back when I started this new chapter I knew there would be challenges. I’ve been around the block a few times and change and challenges are not new to me. Events in the past only prepares you for the notion that there will be challenges in the future, however, not what those challenges will be. 

Greenville’s iconic bridge over the Reedy Falls

On the face of it, my move to South Carolina has been largely uneventful. That’s primarily due to my friends, Brian and Francis in South Carolina and Sara in Florida. They have provided lodging for me and storage for my stuff. And the days leading up to my departure was filled with special memories thanks to Marcia. No words can express the depth of my appreciation and gratitude to these my rare and wonderful friends. I hope I can repay their kindness and generosity in kind in the future, once I am settled.

Speaking of getting settled: I now have a studio apartment, have registered my car and changed my driver’s license. For all intents and purposes ( incense and porpoises) I’m now a South Carolina resident. 

(Yay!!)

On the house buying front, I’ve selected a lot, picked out interior and exterior colors and options and I’ll go under contract next week. Unfortunately it’ll take 10 months or more to complete the house, which is why I’ve rented the apartment. 

Knowing that I’ll be in this tiny apartment for a while, I’ve decided to make it as comfortable as I can without breaking the bank. The challenge of fitting out an apartment with an eye on my future house, and my newfound design choices, and frugality mindset have kept me busy. Every major piece of furniture I buy for the apartment will be used in the house. So, careful consideration is a must. 

Oddly, I’m finding my choices for seating and storage to be a bit tougher than one would expect. I’ve visited local furniture shops looking for chairs or small sofas and shelving. Only one store had anything of interest for seating, but the cost was more than I was willing to pay. And I could find no shelves that fit both my sense of style and my budget.

One purchase I’m proud of is a table that I found in Costco, of all places. The table is glass topped and height adjustable, both features are key to maximizing what little space I have in my apartment.

Adjustable height, glass topped table from Tresanti

The glass top makes cleaning a breeze. I can use the table for dining and food prep, and I can seat 4 people comfortably if the need arises. Not that I’m expecting to host intimate soirées in my little studio, but ya neva kno.

When I’m not using it as part of my kitchen I can use the table as it was intended, as a workstation. The height adjustable feature is great because I like to work at my MacBook and iPad while standing. Again, the glass top can be easily cleaned so dinner doesn’t gunk up my keyboards.

The table was a bit pricey at US$250.00, but, in keeping with my frugality mindset, it’s a high quality piece and I’ll own it and use it for a long time.

Another purchase that I’m happy with is my bedding. My house will have a primary bedroom and two smaller bedrooms. I intend to fit out the primary bedroom with a king sized bed, but one of the smaller bedrooms will have a queen sized bed. That is what I bought for use in my apartment. The mattress came from Costco, one of those foam mattresses in a box. I have slept on lower quality foam mattresses before and found them to surprisingly comfortable. This one is from Novaform and it’s so comfortable that I have no trouble falling to sleep on it. 

And my chairs have arrived! 

While shopping around for seating the would fit comfortably in my tiny studio I stopped in a local furniture store that caters to more affluent customers. The sales person, let’s call him Biff, scoffed when I told him I liked Mid Century Modern style of furnishings. “Oh! You mean that 80s looking stuff with the wood and avocado plush pillows?” He asked in a mockingly annoying tone.

No, Biff, I mean clean lines, no overstuffed upholstery, and neutral colors. And no motion furniture! In my world a chair is just a comfortable place to sit, relax, read, think. I don’t want it to be a bed, or vibrate, hold my cup, or heat my back. If I want to put my feet up I’ll grab an ottoman, which can serve as extra seating if needs be.

My Mid Century Modern chairs

But that’s me. I’ll confess to enjoying a sofa once that happened to be able to recline. Even so, I still don’t want that type of furniture. The chairs I bought are more inline with my style senses. They are wooden framed with sturdy wooden arms. The upholstery is not overly stuffed and very comfortable. The material is grey denim which can be easily removed and washed. I intend to get the upholstery redone in leather later, but for now, these are perfect. 

I still have a few items yet to get; a decent shelving unit, headboard for my bed, and a credenza. Each item will eventually be used in my house and I have narrowed down my choices for each. Once everything is in place I’ll give you a video tour.

And so, my move to South Carolina continues to unfold. The journey so far has been exciting and challenging in unexpected ways. I’ve also met some nice people. My family has commented on how fast things are developing. In my mind, however, things aren’t moving fast enough. I like to keep it moving because when I stop moving things get quiet. And when things get quiet I start to feel the emotions that are often associated with changes of this magnitude. Those emotions are not always positive. 

For instance, I could do so much and I was surrounded by a great group of people in Florida. One person in particular and I hung out a lot together. I miss that. I miss them. I miss that person. A lot. 

It will take time for me to get immersed in my new environment and those feelings, I’m sure, will diminish, but never disappear. I just need to keep moving forward.

Stay tuned.

Vern

Darts

I was never one for team sports. When I was a kid I was too short for basketball, too small for football, and baseballs seem to hit me more than I hit them. Oh, I tried, you’d have to give me an ‘A’ for effort, but my lack of speed, agility, and mass relegated me to always being the last one to get picked for teams, if I got picked at all. I didn’t mind so much. I tended to like one on one sports where one person matches his or her skills against those of another, like tennis, boxing or archery. Unfortunately those types of sports were hard to get into in my west Baltimore neighborhood in the late 1950s. 

I suppose that, since I was rejected by team sports, I rejected them. I never watched them on TV or followed team statistics. I couldn’t care less what team got into whatever playoffs or what player got traded to which team. I paid enough attention to sports to appreciated the skills involved, so if I happen to be sitting in a bar and football highlights are showing, I’ll watch, not caring what team is playing or the eventual score, but to see the actual plays being skillfully executed by professionals. I appreciate what it takes to get to that level of skill.

So, no team sports for me. That is, until I got to be much older. I now play on a dart team and the team is in a local league. How I wound up on this team is a story in itself.

Back when I was still married I was looking for something that my then wife and I could play together and not wind up killing each other. One Christmas I decided to buy an electronic dartboard. It wasn’t the cheapest board around, but it wasn’t the best either. It was functional enough that it captured our interest on evenings when there wan’t much else to do. It also fit right into my ‘one-on-one’ sports mentality.

My current electronic dartboard. It’s very similar to the one I first started playing on.

My ex and I played often and, while I was decent, my ex got to be really good. She had a very strange throw where she would swing her arms like a baseball pitcher winding up to sling a fast ball. She’d then would hurl the dart and, more often than not, she’d hit her target. It became a point of frustration for me with her winning so much, especially since I had practiced using tips I had picked up on YouTube. Seemed no matter how I tried, the woman would beat me time and again. 

Did I mention how frustrating that was? 

Yeah.

Anyway, after my divorce I decided that I wanted to increase my skills. I bought a real bristle board and metal tipped darts and hung the board in the garage of my new house. I envisioned having neighbors over to throw on warm summer evenings while chit-chatting and downing a cooler full of beer. 

The neighbor thing never happened, however. I joined the Peace Corps and rented out my house. But darts wasn’t done with me. There was another Peace Corps volunteer in Arandis, the town I wound up serving in, and he was a darts player and taught some of the locals how to play. He even convinced one of the bar owners to set up a dartboard in an unused room.  

One of my Namibian friends kicking my butt.

So, after work, I would head to that bar, order a bottle to Windhoek Lager, the official beer of Namibia, and set about playing against the locals. Once again, I ran into frustration because the local dart players were good, often better than me. Still, it was fun and I got to hone my dart throwing skills a bit. 

I actually got fairly decent, good enough to win a trophy and N$200 (about US$10). Not long after that, Covid hit and all Peace Corps volunteers were sent home. When I finally moved back into my house in 2022 I decided to get another electronic dart board. This one is pretty decent with lots of different games and I can play against the builtin computer. It’s been fun to mess around with it, but I found that I really missed throwing metal tipped darts

Me with my friend and colleague, Florian, showing off my trophy.

There’s a difference between soft tip darts used with electronic boards and metal tipped darts used on bristle boards. Soft tip darts tend to be lighter and can bounce off the board if you arch your throws. A good metal tipped dart on a good bristle board is far more forgiving, but the target areas are a bit smaller. Also, throwing a well made metal tipped dart onto a well made bristle dart board gives a satisfying, “thunk!” when dart meets board. 

Anyway, back to how I joined a dart team. I was at an Irish pub in Winter Park, Florida called Fiddler’s Green and, lo and behold, they have three bristle dart boards! Many bars and pubs in and around Orlando, if they have dart boards at all, opt for the electronic boards where you have to pay to play. Fiddler’s Green didn’t go that route and their dart boards are often occupied by local kids from Rollins College. The pub even hosts ‘Open Darts’ on Tuesdays where anyone can play and possibly win up to $25 in Fiddler’s Green gift cards. 

After seeing those boards I decided to buy a good set of metal tipped darts and started showing up on Tuesdays to try my hand at winning a gift card or two. As it happened, one Tuesday night the captain of Fiddler’s Green’s league team was playing and I guess I made an impression on him, because he asked me to join the team. At that point I was just a so-so player, hardly consistent in my scoring, and I barely understood the rules of the games the league plays. Still, I decided to give it a go. 

As far as I can tell, there are two dart leagues in the Orlando area; one for soft tipped darts played on electronic boards, one for metal tipped darts. I don’t know much about the soft tipped dart league, but I do know they appear to be pretty active.

An ongoing match at Fiddler’s Green. We did well that night.

We have 17 teams in the metal tipped dart league, which is divided into 4 tiers. During the season the scores a team achieves by winning matches determines the team’s position in the league standings and what tier that team is in at the end of the season. The playoffs are between the teams in each tier. My team won 1st place in tier 2 both seasons of 2022 and have trophies to show for it. We made it into tier 1 last season, but didn’t do well enough to win a trophy.

The first season I played I won as many as I lost, but I found that I enjoyed hanging out with and cheering on my teammates. This is my third season with the team and it’s been a lot of fun. We’ve just finished the second 2023 season and, once again, we’re in tier two. We are third place in the tier going into the playoffs. I don’t think we’ll win a trophy this season either, but I’m gonna give it my best shot, or throw, which seems more appropriate.

I actually have my name on the team’s trophy!

Like any sports, darts requires skills which are only gained through practice, but you don’t have to be a sharp shooter to have a blast. Almost anyone can play. If you can throw a dart and hit the board, game on! 

If you’re new to darts and would like to see how well you might like it, I suggest you start off with soft tipped darts and an electronic board. The board will offer lots of different games with plenty of options. I would avoid the very cheap boards, they are far more trouble than they are worth. Expect to pay between US$50 to US$100 for a decent electronic board. I recommend the Arachnid Cricket Pro 450. It has everything you need to get started playing.

If you’d like more info about metal tipped darts, leave a comment and I’ll get back to you.

I’ll also update this to let you know how my team does in the playoffs, which starts tonight (Jan. 29, 2024). Wish us luck.

Stay tuned.

Update: Last night’s match was fun, but my team didn’t do as well as we’d like. That match was against the top team in our tier. The final score was 3:7.

Several very close games where it could have gone our way, but it was not to be.

I lost my singles cricket match. I just couldn’t get my act together. My doubles cricket match was better. We won that one.

Hopefully we’ll do better next week.

Last Update: We came in third in our tier. Not as good as last season, but better than I had expected. There will be some turnover on the team as well, people leaving to pursue other interests, people joining. In all it was a fun season.

As I said, stay tuned.